I follow the Dalai Lama on Facebook and while reading his inspirational quote for the day, it made me realize that I only follow one positive source a day… but I will happily follow all the negative stuff in my feed.  I don’t think that’s the way to build a positive outlook… Time to get out of the problem!

Over the years, I have noticed that there are two kinds of people in the world: those who live in the solution, and those who live in the problem. Unfortunately, I often find myself sliding into the problem:

  • When all I can do is complain about a situation, I’m in the problem.
  • When I take pleasure in other people’s mistakes, I’m in the problem.
  • When I wallow in the gossip on Facebook, I’m in the problem.
  • And when everything in my career looks bleak, I AM the problem.

On the other hand, the solution is all around me.  It does not reside between my two ears, but in the interaction and support from others.  As Albert Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it.” To me, this means that I need to reach beyond my own experiences and seek help from others.  It’s not an easy thing to do – I hate admitting that I don’t know everything and that I need help.  However, when I get over that stumbling block, things always improve with new ideas and feedback from others.

The point of networking groups is not necessarily “just to find a job;” it is to gain access to other people who can help change your consciousness with their experience, strength and hope to get into a solution. Living in the solution means:

  • Reaching out to others when you need help.
  • Being there to help others with their own stumbling blocks.
  • Give and receive positive feedback.
  • Having the courage to try something new.
  • Possessing the strength to consistently implement those new ideas.
  • Giving thanks to all those around us who support us – body, mind and soul.

And if you find days that depression and frustration take over once again, recognize that it is important to recognize these feelings as well.  Denying their existence will only make it worse.  Feel it, then pick up the phone and call your job search buddies to find solutions, not to just vent.

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