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Networking tip for shy people

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Is networking the best tool for a job search?  Like everything else, it depends on how you use it.  If you’re just calling people and asking for jobs, then no, it does not.  If you can offer something of value – knowledge, experience or even friendship – then yes, it can.

 However, many people struggle with chronic shyness.  As they berate themselves for not reaching out, attending networking groups and cold-calling companies, their self esteem can slide as well.  But even these aggressive, extroverted networking efforts are not necessarily the best way to build an effective network.

Get Over Networking Fear

If you’re not comfortable with face-to-face networking, try it on-line first.  Websites like www.linkedin.com and www.facebook.com are great places to contact people.  If you can break the ice in electronic worlds, you will be more confident when you meet people face-to-face.

Social networking sites are growing exponentially, which opens more and more back doors to your target companies.  However, there is more to gain than just job contacts.  Networking is really about people helping each other by sharing knowledge.  This is done in groups.

When you join groups, ask questions and get involved. If you like someone’s answers, look at their profile.  Is this somebody you would like to know more about? Try emailing them in private about their answers, rather than just posting your comments in the discussion areas.

After you’ve shared some emails back and forth, then ask the person to connect.  They don’t have to work for your immediate target companies to be valuable. The goal is to build a self-sustaining network that will last beyond the job search.

Once you get accustomed to reaching out to people, then go after your target companies, seeking them on LinkedIn and Twitter.  Just like anything, networking is a skill that gets better with practice. If you’ve started to build your network already, you will quickly become a valued asset instead of “that creepy guy” who tracks people down and bombards them with silly or irrelevant emails.

Learn to build a valuable network.  It’s not really about building the numbers if you have no idea who these people are or what your connection to them is.  As in real life, concentrate on building mutually beneficial business relationships.  That is what true networking is all about.

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About the Author

Since 2004, Donna has been teaching job seekers of all levels effective job search strategies. In 2009, she published her book "Get a Job Without Going Crazy: a Practical Guide to Your Employment Search." Donna is based in Denver, and has presented workshops in Los Angeles, San Francisco and Dallas. She continues to work with job seekers across the country.

Discussion

  1. Jim L. Henderson  March 13, 2012

    Good morning Donna,

    Very well written post on “networking” in the DEMA Linkedin site. I agree 100% about how to build “valued” relationships. It’s not about promoting yourself but, rather finding opportunities to connect the person whom you have reached out to. I have solid connections all over the world and can draw upon them at the click of a button because they know they can do the same with me.

    I have been actively using Linkedin for over 5 years. Of all the social networking sites out there Linkedin is the best. I continue to be amazed at the incredible relationships I’ve developed with complete strangers….all over the world.

    I would be happy to add you as one of my Linkedin connections, by the way.

    Kind regards,

    Jim Henderson

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